Relationship Status

Dear Stranger,

I realized all my letters to date have been emotionally oriented but hey, that’s the way the wind blows recently. All I do is go with it. I stumbled unto something recently and had a series of interesting conversations on the topic.

There is this big fuss about relationship statuses on social networking sites especially Facebook and MySpace. People tend to take this seriously, I have realized. And given how these sites are popular and structured, who wouldn’t?

I only recently found out I was in an implied relationship. What does one refer to his/her partner as then? It definitely isn’t boyfriend or girlfriend. Do we coin up new terms and words then?

As we get more technologically advanced we complicate our simple lives instead of the reverse. I never really saw the huge fuss about “having a title” for a relationship till I found myself in that iffy funky place.

Let me explain! I have a never been unsure about a relationship before this one. From my initial conversations with a guy I can easily tell who is going to run the relationship, how long it would last and even who would call it off even before I agree to date a guy. Call it perceptive, paranoid or even controlling, I don’t care. I just call it “facing reality”.

I suppose everyone meets that person that puts them out of their comfort zone and challenges how “the normal” is for them. I have gotten to that zone. And trust me, when you are helpless in making strong decisions, the issue of relationship status is far from mind.

What is the deal though with people creating controversies on these social networking sites anyway? Why put up a relationship status with someone when there is another individual to consider? Like seriously, take out “open relationships” and “it’s complicated” we all know they don’t ever exist in serious monogamous relationships anyway.

For real though, everyone knows an open relationship is an excuse to cheat or have multiple partners. There is nothing serious about that or is there? Neither is there anything monogamous about it. And how is a relationship complicated? It is either you are in one or you are not. What is complicated about a relationship?

I tell people all the time,  I may have fallen deeply for the guy I am talking to but I am still single. So long as I have not been asked, “Will you be my girlfriend?” I am still on the open market. Yes sure, after falling head over heels for this dude if he is not the one who asks me out I would be devastated but that would only be my fault because I shouldn’t be this smitten when I am not in a recognized relationship, blah blah blah! I have heard that speech one too many times already.

In my opinion? Relationship status do mean a great deal especially if you are involved with an insecure person like myself. Do not get it twisted though. A girl might tell you she is okay with complicated and/or open relationships but no matter how much she loves you, she is lying to you. There is a plot hatching behind the scenes so do not get tangled with that. I have said my piece and poured it all out. As usual,

Thanks for listening,

MzYayraTay